I have recently had so much on my mind related to parenting. This week I just can’t escape thoughts surrounding the world in which we are raising our children. My children think that you should be able to see everyone you speak to on the phone. I mean, really? They are 3 and a half and 15 months, and their norm is FaceTime. They are being raised in a world where the latest “sensation” is a child who is clearly confused about who she is and is being fed lies about how to become lovely. I don’t deny that I have seen a Honey Boo Boo video on youtube and laughed. Of course it was funny! But the moment I stopped to consider how I would feel if it were Lucy Hayes, it was no longer funny. It’s rather heartbreaking. My children are years away from becoming teenagers, but they are being raised in a world where one of the coolest places for teens to shop prints t-shirts promoting drinking and sleeping around. Have you SEEN Urban Outfitters’ most recent t shirts? I was disgusted. Bleh. My daughter is being raised in a world where every single photo of a beautiful woman is FAKE! This one can really infuriate me if I camp on it for more than a minute. Have you seen the recent photos of J Lo in her bathing suit? They are real. No airbrushing. They are glorious!
I don’t point out these things to focus on the negative. I am an optimist at heart, almost to a fault! At the same time, I believe that all of these things effect the decisions we make as parents. The reality of our world conjures up so many questions for me. Should we just focus on the positive? What should we expose them to and teach them about? What should we shelter them from?
I don’t have any answers. I don’t think we need to have black and white answers. I think the answers will come as we continue to shape our family’s core values. I just want to be sure that we aren’t all burying our heads in the sand and hoping for the best. As parents, there are so many things that demand our attention … Another dirty diaper? What WILL we have for dinner? What is she eating? Great, our dog went to visit neighbors! Which vaccine next? Is two day a week pre k the right decision? I just vacuumed yesterday! Must go for a run! It’s 2 pm and I still haven’t showered! I haven’t journaled in a month. Another tooth popping through? You MUST ask permission before going “tinkle” at the park. He STILL has pent up energy after a morning walk, mid day bike ride, and an hour playing at the park? We’re out of almond milk again? Etc. Etc. Etc. Whew. Those are the things that typically occupy my brain. If you have young children, you know that the mental drain alone is exhausting. Not to mention physically keeping up with two energetic, spirited, adventurous, super active, yet precious babes. It ABSOLUTELY has it’s pay offs! Man, I couldn’t live a day without them! But that’s another post… 😉 For now, I am working on engaging the big picture, strategic part of my brain.
Proverbs 22:6 comes to mind. “Train up a child in the way they should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”
As a mommy, I feel that I am called to think through much more than just the immediate demands that swirl in my head around the clock. Here’s to having enough brain power left to remember that! They can be exhausting, but I just can’t get enough!
Speaking of immediate demands, I gotta run! My two sweet babes have been awake in their beds for about 15 minutes. One of them is now fussing, and the other one is growling. I love it!